“Maybe I was destined to forever fall in love with people I couldn’t have. Maybe there’s a whole assortment of impossible people waiting for me to find them. Waiting to make me feel the same impossibility over and over again.”—Carol Rifka Brunt, Tell the Wolves I’m Home (via offguard)
If you go into a bar with your boyfriend and spend the whole time eyeing up the other girls there and comparing them to you and worrying that they might be better/hotter than you and your boyfriend might start wondering why hes with you and not them, then that is exactly what will happen.
Plot twist: if you go into a bar with your boyfriend and you don’t even notice the other women in the bar and you just have a fun time, your man won’t even notice the other women because YOU’RE having a great time with him. Better yet, if you smile and include other women without any worry of them taking your place, you’re put on an even higher pedestal because CONFIDENCE WINS every time. Even if you don’t have it, fake it till you make it.
I’m not saying act like you’re better than everyone else, but don’t act like you’re so worthless that anyone could kick you to the curb. Choose to feel good about yourself. And yes, it IS a CHOICE. If you don’t like yourself, guess what, that’s a CHOICE you are making. You don’t have to feel that way. You can change. You can start to focus on the things you DO like about yourself, the things you ARE good at. You are allowed to! Because YOU decide what is and isn’t allowed. No one else decides for you.
Always remember, anyone trying to bring you down is BENEATH YOU.
“Too many young girls don’t know how to act when someone’s being inappropriate with them. They giggle or they try to brush it off. Don’t do that. Tell them to go fuck themselves - be a bitch. If someone’s being disrespectful to you, be disrespectful right back. Show them the same amount of respect that they show you.”—Wise words from my mom (via magicrobotgeography)